Husbands Should ALWAYS Help In The Household Without Being Asked

Ladies, imagine this little scenario: You are a stay-at-home mom so you’re spending the day busy taking care of the kids and keeping the house clean. As your husband arrives in the evening, you serve the freshly-cooked dinner on the table. He then heads to the couch to watch TV after the meal and leaves you alone to do the dishes because, you know, he says he’s so exhausted from work and he needs to relax.

An argument begins. You remind him you too have been tired the whole day and that you need his help in the kitchen. So he finally obliges and you do the task together, in awkward silence.

Sounds familiar, you say? If you answered yes, well you need to know one thing – you are not alone and one woman is on your side, doing her best to change that for the better.

Australian blogger Constance Hall has over a million followers on social media and she is loved for her honest insights about womanhood and parenting.

In one of her Facebook posts, the mother of four wrote:

“Recently while b*tching about the fact that I do absolutely everything around my house with a bunch of friends all singing ‘preach Queen,’ someone said to me, ‘if you want help you need to be specific … ask for it. People need lists, they aren’t mind readers.'”

So Constance took it upon herself to do exactly that – and she got as specific as she could.

“Can you take the bin out?”

“Can you get up with the kids? I’m just a little tired after doing it on my own for 329 years.”

“Can you go to woolies? I’ve done 3 loads of washing and made breaky, lunch, picked up all the kids’ school books, dealt with the floating sh*t in the pond.”

She then continued saying this just shouldn’t be the case in the first place – because in the long run, “instructions” do not solve the problem.

As she told fellow moms:

“I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not your job to ask for help, it’s not my job to write f*cking lists..

“We have enough god damn jobs and teaching someone how to consider me and my ridiculous work load is not one of them.”

For the men in the house, well, she didn’t hold back and gave them this:

“Just think about each other, what it takes to run the god damn house. Is one of you working while the other puts up their feet? Is one of you hanging out with mates while the other peels the thirtieth piece of fruit for the day?

“Is one of you carrying the weight?

“Because when the nagging stops, when the asking dies down, when there are no more lists…. All you’re left with is silent resentment. And that my friends is relationship canc er..

“It’s not up to anyone else to teach you consideration. That’s your job. Just do the f*cking dishes without being asked once in a while mother f*ckers.”

Not surprisingly, many of Constance’s followers are strongly agreeing with the points she raised.

One shared:

“My grandparents have a fridge magnet on prominent display that says ‘No wife ever shot her husband while he was doing the dishes.'”

Another said:

“Oh I have so many things to say about this topic. 31 years of marriage and still asking at times. However some things have been asked and asked and nagged and disgust that they now just happen. I told my kids and husband. M stands for mum not maid and W stands for wife not waitress.”